Getting over a broken heart.
I woke up with breakup music going through my head.
Dealing with breakup, coping with relationship breakup.
Diary blogs on hearing a song in my head, a heartache song.

Jim Reeves
"put your sweet lips
a little closer to the phone"

Gentleman Jim plays in my head

I didn't know he was called Gentleman Jim.

I didn't even know whose voice it was playing in my head.

I just heard words in my head, a song playing:

Let's pretend that we're together all alone ...

You can tell your friend there with you he'll have to go ...

Do you want me, answer yes or no
Darlin' I will understand ...

I knew what it was about. It's been 3 years since my ex left for someone else. This is just about the third anniversary of that. And so I woke up with those words going through my head.

I thought the break up would be so easy. There'd been lots of stresses between us.

But it hasn't been easy. Crazy inside stuff - like appreciating all the good things about him much more after the break-up - instead of, like before it, focusing so much on what I didn't appreciate. A hard lesson to learn, all the good feeling that flowed beneath the critical feeling on top.

There's more about why that particular song was playing. As I hear it anyway, the man in the song knows she isn't going to send the other man away. So without saying it, the song recognizes the relationship is over - but not all the feelings.

It's different from 3 years ago. No intense sense of loss. And there's the recognition that, had I met someone, the loss might not even be felt anymore.

But there it is anyway.

So I went online, put the words in the search window - and immediately came to Jim Reeves, Gentleman Jim, and even found a video of him singing the song. So strange, listening to him performing the song with such a neutral voice and ending with a smile for the audience. That isn't how the song would be performed these days.

With my band I've just done another song,
It Hurts When You Break a Leg or a Heart.

I woke up with that song in my head 18 years ago now, at the end of another relationship. A cowboy with a huge stetson was singing it. That song - one of my own.

Don't ever forget
life's a miracle and yet
It hurts when you break
A leg or a heart  more


Elsa

September 3, 2012

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PS. In case you'd like the full lyrics, I'm putting them here for you. And below there's Jim Reves singing the song, plus a link to info on him.

Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone
Let's pretend that we're together all alone
I'll tell the man to turn the juke box way down low
And you can tell your friend there with you he'll have to go

Whisper to me tell me do you love me true
Or is he holding you the way I do
Though love is blind make up your mind I've got to know
Should I hang up or will you tell him he'll have to go

You can't say the words I want to hear
While you're with another man
Do you want me answer yes or no
Darlin' I will understand

Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone
Let's pretend that we're together all alone
I'll tell the man to turn the juke box way down low
And you can tell your friend there with you he'll have to go

And here is information about Jim Reeves.

Getting over a broken heart.
Not so easy, getting over a broken heart.
But better to know one feels loss
than to have it all go underground -
not heart ache, no pain,
and no way of really getting over it.
Anyway ...
I woke up with breakup music going through my head.
Dealing with breakup, coping with relationship breakup,
getting over a broken heart.
Not easy - not even with a song for a broken heart.


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on dealing with relationship breakup
and getting over a broken heart,
to a song for a broken heart,
It Hurts When You Break a Leg or a Heart,
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